Asserting one’s truth without fear

I am attending, as advised by my boss, a course on assertiveness. The timing could not be any more appropriate as I am going through a life shift resulting in the gradual declaration of my self worth. It is fascinating to reflect that all negative behavior — including all non-assertive behavior — whether passive or aggressive or passive-aggressive, are based on FEAR, or as our teacher phrased it, False Evidence Appearing Real.

The Virtues Project has a beautiful definition:

Assertiveness is speaking one’s truth with peaceful confidence. It is discerning the song we were given to sing and using our talents as a gift to the world. We have the courage to speak up for what we believe is right. We tell the truth about what is just. Assertiveness comes from knowing our own worth, and honoring the dignity of who we are. We stand on our own holy ground, and set boundaries without guilt. We never beg or make demands. We ask for what we need by making simple, positive requests. We treat ourselves with respect and expect respect at all times.

Dost thou reckon thyself a puny form, when within thee the universe is folded?
(Imam Ali)

As I am typing this, I am also printing copies of Marianne Williamson‘s famous quote for my classmates:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
(Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”, Harper Collins, 1992. From Chapter 7, Section 3)

But for those wondering what Baha’u’llah has to say on fear, The Hidden Words have the answer:

Thou art My dominion and My dominion perisheth not; wherefore fearest thou thy perishing? Thou art My light and My light shall never be extinguished; why dost thou dread extinction? Thou art My glory and My glory fadeth not; thou art My robe and My robe shall never be outworn. Abide then in thy love for Me, that thou mayest find Me in the realm of glory.
(Baha’u’llah, The Arabic Hidden Words)

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